Episode 1: The Nemesis

Ruqoyah bnt Mahmud was my name I’m a student of Lagos state university (LASU),300L. I was coming from the Library while this person hit me hardly that I staggered, with a loud voice!! Without knowing whom it was, aryu blind? Can’t yu see?  OMG! He was a tall and handsome Brother with soft face,  ,……..

I LONGED FOR MARRIAGE

“I  longed for marriage”  .. and I got married  But life with out children is deserting  Thus I longed to be blessed with children  … and I got children  But within no time my small apartment made me uncomfortable..  I therefore longed for bigger house with garden..  well, I  got it, though with much efforts …

ENGAGEMENT FROM I ISLAMIC PERSPECTIVE

What is the concept of engagement in Islam?   Usually an engagement party is one in which the fiance/fiancee exchange rings.  Is this the prescribed method in the shariah?. Praise be to Allaah.   Engagement according to sharee’ah means that the man asks the woman to marry him.  The view of the scholars is that engagement…

SINCERE ADVICE TO SISTERS IN ISLAM

أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم  السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته أيها الإخوان في هذه المجتمع. All praise is due to Allah. We Glorify Him, seek His aid and ask for His forgiveness. We seek Allah’s refuge from the evils of ourselves and from our evil actions.   I testified that none has…

​Not Haram; A Muslim Woman Can Propose To A Muslim Man 

A Muslim woman is allowed to approach a man with a marriage proposal, if she comes to know of a man who has good character, Deen and would be a good husband, she can approach him in an honorable way with a marriage proposal. This may be seen as improper or brazen in some cultures….

​SECOND WIFE (MATHNA)

Copied from Sulayman Aliyu Abdullah “Second wife! The words reverberated through my brain. Why? Am I not good enough? Never! I will never accept a second wife! If you want a second wife you can go out and get one as long as you know that I will not be here when you come back!…

​Dear Daughter, In Search of a Husband’s Love

Sore throat!!! I’m losing my voice to laryngitis of the heart. Culled from the journal of Umm Zakiyyah. Dear daughter and young sister in faith, I wish I could wrap the words I say to you in the language of love, in the power of experience, and in the calm solemnness of pain, then release…

Falling Love

“I have discovered that love doesn’t guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all year round, and on the other hand, cheating isn’t always a product of not loving your partner.  In fact, loving someone doesn’t guarantee not falling in love with someone else. Relationships work out mostly…

INTRODUCTION WITHOUT ‘AQD: A LEGALIZATION OF FORNICATION

Written by Ustadh Sirnucy Lafiagi Conclusion Part In the previous three episodes, I have been able to establish the fact that any meeting or coming together between the families of the two intending couple under the guise of introduction is a mere familiarization visit which neither confers any legality on the relationship between the duo,…

INTRODUCTION WITHOUT ‘AQD: A LEGALIZATION OF FORNICATION

Episode Two Written by Ustadh Sirnucy Lafiagi As far back as the 80s, and down to late 90s, wedding introduction as we see it today (especially down South) was not in vogue. Today, a lot of money is being spent on mere frivolities in the name of wedding introduction without doing the proper ‘aqd that…

INTRODUCTION WITHOUT ‘AQD: A LEGALIZATION OF FORNICATION

Episode One Written by Ustadh Sirnucy Lafiagi The practise of marriage in Islam is so easy and affordable, and does not involve any physical, mental or psychological stress, or financial recklessness. It is very simple and straightforward. It does not allow room for any crookedness, or exploitation or extortion. When a Muslim man desires a…